is not easy to come out "Defeat the enemy 
title of an article published in the Basque on Saturday 8 March. Here it is a summary:
The first advice book produced in Spain for gays, lesbians, transsexuals and bisexuals are entitled As . Its author, psychologist Madrid Manuel Ángel Soriano, shells through more than 40 interviews with such diverse aspects as the role of family, love between women, the fears of people over 60 years, difficulties of Catholics to reclaim their sexuality or the threat of AIDS.
- Why a book?
- Because in this country there are hardly any self-help books for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT). What we read here are translations of French and American authors. The subject is the same, but the views and political and social reality are different.
- To be heterosexual one is missing a book!
- But look what curious heterosexuals have many self-help books. If you have low self-esteem, bullying issues, communication ...
- Is it a book to come out?
- A book of affection and life. And yes, no doubt, is a book that can come right out of the closet.
- should get out of the closet?
- There are two ways out of the closet. We will point out.
- Let's do .
- One is an intimate and existential output that makes a person with himself when he recognizes gay or heterosexual. Is Most importantly, you are accepted, care, and valued like himself. And then there's no other way we can call social, that is when someone notifies your family, at work, wherever.
- Should be this way?
- not easy with the homophobia that still exist in society. Ideally, everyone out of the closet, but we must be realistic and recognize that sometimes is not easy. Do not run unnecessary risks or be martyrs to the cause.
- Why, as he relates, react so badly to the people who hide homosexuality?
- A scary sometimes recognize itself a series of behaviors and feelings. We live in a society steeped in the Judeo-Christian culture and are heirs of the Franco dictatorship that sent homosexuals to a reformatory penal Huelva. Sometimes difficult to accept.
- How often live a notice so parents of a child?
- depends on your level of religious Catholic and his homophobia, his conservatism. There is everything families who accept it naturally, others need an adjustment period and others who live badly.
- In his book shows a authenticates against collective persecution. The family, school, parties, universities, media ... Too victimhood?
- I did not want to give an overview of victimization. The level of freedom in Spain is much higher than in other countries where homosexuality is punished even with death penalty. But it is true that if 70% of the population accepts it is because there is another 30% do not. A gay couple in Chueca and El Eixample not collide, but in other places an expression of affection between two persons of the same sex can be risky.
- Is it easier to be gay lesbian?
"No what happens is that the lesbian is far more armarizada.
- sexism also affects the gay world?
- Machismo is real and not only affects heterosexuals. In the gay world, sometimes superficial, often that a person is rejected for having more than 40 years or living with HIV / AIDS. There is homophobia and sexism, yes, but less among women.
- you asked repeatedly by the Catholic Church. Why?
- The historic rejection of the Catholic Church to the world homosexual encounters the statistics we have. Where there is a higher percentage of gays is just at that institution. Not understood.
- Could you explain, please?
- The average age of the religious rounds, I know, 50 years. Many elderly people in the Franco era one of the ways he had to hide his homosexuality and pretend normality was getting into a religious order. So they had no charges, no one pointed a finger if they remained single. There are very serious studies showing that the percentage of gays in the Catholic Church is very high, not only in Spain.
- What remains to be done?
- As a therapist I am surprised when it comes to my office young people, aged 20, hard to come out and the same concerns we had in the 70's. The change has been substantial and positive, but we must manage it in perspective.
